Christian Counseling in Spokane, Washington
Counseling for Individuals, Couples and Families
Marital Frustrations: A Sample Worksheet
1. Write Frustrating Event
What you do that frustrates me is… |
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2. Write Feeling Response
And then I feel… |
What Actually Happened
You Came Home Late
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Emotions - Feelings
Scared
Angry
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4. Write Hidden Fear
To hide my fear of… |
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3. Write Behavioral Response
And what I do is… |
Fear Your Response Hides
That you’re dead.
I'll be alone.
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What You Actually Do
Pace, Scream
Throw Things
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5. Write Hidden Desires
My desires from you are… |
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Desires
I would like you
to be on time.
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6. Write Change Requests
To obtain my desires, I would like to request from you…
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A. Behavior Change Request
If you're going to be more than 15 minutes late,
call me ½ hour before you're due & tell me 75% of the time.
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B. Behavior Change Request
Surprise me and come home early 10% of the time.
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C. Behavior Change Request
If you're late & don't call,
listen to me when I'm using an "I Message."
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Ready to try it yourself? Fill out the Marital Frustrations Worksheet.
